Counselling is considered to be a talking therapy. A trained therapist will listen to whatever you choose to bring to the session and works with you so that you can find your own solutions to whatever is painful for you. What counsellors won’t do is tell you what to do.
It is your time to work through what may be keeping you stuck, so that you can then move forward. Sometimes in our busy lives we don’t get the time to think, or to process anything. We are rushing from one thing to another. Maybe we have a demanding family or job, or maybe we just need a trained therapist to be with us as it feels too difficult to face alone. In counselling you will have this space, free from interruptions, to focus on you. It’s your time for self care.
So, if you have decided that counselling is something that you would like to try, you may be feeling very anxious about opening up to someone you don’t know. This is a big and important first step and if you haven’t had any counselling before it may feel really difficult. So, apart from looking for a counsellor who holds the right qualifications, it is important that you feel comfortable with them. If you don’t, it is unlikely that you will be able to open up fully.
Below are some frequently asked questions and answers. If you would like to read further about counselling then check out my blog ‘What Can Counselling Give Me?‘
But I feel in crisis……
If though, right now, you feel that you may harm yourself, help is immediately available. You don’t have to struggle alone. Apart from phoning your GP or 999 there are other sources of help out there. Below are a few:
Samaritans – Tel: 116123 or email firstname.lastname@example.org. Open 24 hours.
CALM (for men) – 0800 555858 from 5 pm – midnight every day.
Papryus (for people under 35) – 0800 0684141. Mon – Fri 10 am to 10 pm, weekends 2 – 10 pm, Bank Holidays 2 – 5 pm. Text 07786 209697 or email email@example.com.
Childline (for under 19s) – 0800 11 11. The number won’t show up on the bill.
The Silverline (for older people) – 0800 4708090.
Most frequent questions and answers
If you would like to get in touch, that’s great. I recommend a telephone conversation initially so that I can answer any immediate questions and get an idea from you about what you want to achieve out of counselling. If I cannot get to the phone, please leave a message (it is completely confidential) stating what number to call you back on, if it’s ok to leave a message and I will get in touch as soon as I can.
In this session I will need to take some information from you to enable me to work safely and ethically. It is a chance for you to ask any questions and to see if I am the right counsellor for you and we will normally establish a way of working with each other. You will receive my privacy and confidentiality policies.